Blog archive
December 2024
President's Message
12/20/2024
A VILLAGE THANKSGIVING DAY GATHERING
12/19/2024
AgingSGV.org: A New Resource for Aging in the San Gabriel Valley
12/19/2024
Bridging Generations at Pasadena Village’s IT CAFE
12/19/2024
CELEBRATIONS ABOUND!
12/19/2024
FINDING PEACE OF MIND THROUGH FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION
12/19/2024
Go Figure: Cheryl & Beth Are Skating Through Life
12/19/2024
NASA’S GREAT OBSERVATORIES – A TRIUMPH OF THE HUMAN SPIRIT
12/19/2024
THE BRIDGE BEGINS AT JOURNEY HOUSE
12/19/2024
TWO VILLAGES JOIN MISSIONS FOR THE HOLIDAYS
12/19/2024
VILLAGE CONNECTIONS AT WASHINGTON PARK
12/19/2024
What in the World is a Blue Zone?
12/19/2024
November 2024
Event of Remembrance
11/22/2024
Phishing Scams: What You Need to Know
11/22/2024
Pupusas Family Style: Another Adventurous Dining Winner
11/22/2024
Celebrating the Holidays
11/21/2024
Genealogy Group: Discovering Our Pasts
11/21/2024
Nathan Wolford – From Tragedy to Ministry
11/21/2024
Pasadena Village Board of Directors: A Brief Overview
11/21/2024
President's Message
11/21/2024
The Day of the Dead (Dia de muertos)/ Mexican Culture/Community
11/21/2024
Vintage Celebration: Aging Like a Fine Wine
11/21/2024
Review of Racism in Our Local Past
11/20/2024
Creative Juices Flow in The Village
11/19/2024
Checking In by Ed Rinderle
11/15/2024
Eagle Poem by Joy Harjo
11/15/2024
I Shall Forget You Presently, My Dear (Sonnet IV) by Edna St. Vincent Millay
11/15/2024
Pictures From Brueghel by William Carlos Williams
11/15/2024
October 2024
ARBORIST WALK: NOT FOR TREE HUGGERS ONLY!
10/29/2024
Bill Wishner: Visual Hunter
10/29/2024
Can a Village Group Fix Our Healthcare System?
10/29/2024
Community Board Directors Strengthen Village Board
10/29/2024
Connecting with Village Connections: The A, B, C, & D’s of Medicare @ 65+
10/29/2024
Grief is a Journey: Two Paths Taken
10/29/2024
Message from the President
10/29/2024
Promoting Informed & Involved Voters
10/29/2024
What Will Be Your Legacy?
10/29/2024
1619, Approaching the Election...
10/27/2024
Beyond and Within the Village - A Star is Born
10/17/2024
Happiness by Priscilla Leonard
10/11/2024
Those Winter Sundays by Robert Hayden
10/11/2024
Unpainted Door by Louise Gluck
10/11/2024
In the Evening by Billy Collins
10/10/2024
Wild Geese by Mary Oliver
10/10/2024
Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024
Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024
Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024
September 2024
Connecting with Village Connections
09/30/2024
Betty Kilby, A Family History
09/27/2024
Reflection on Life
09/20/2024
Expanding the Possibilities
09/19/2024
Need a Ride? No Problem!
09/17/2024
Security When Aging (Especially If You Are Single)
09/17/2024
The Bridge Begins at Thanksgiving
09/17/2024
The Power of Collective Service: Putting the Village First
09/17/2024
Tino Melchor - A Mentor for Young Teens in the Making
09/17/2024
Village Party Bus Delivers FUN
09/17/2024
We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know: That’s Why We Have Educational Programs
09/17/2024
On Rereading Tolle by Ed Rinderle
09/10/2024
Autumn Leaves
09/09/2024
August 2024
1619 Wide Ranging Interests
08/19/2024
1619 Wide Ranging Interests
08/19/2024
First Anniversary
08/19/2024
Alexandra Leaving by Leonard Cohen
08/16/2024
Muse des Beaux Arts by W. H. Auden
08/16/2024
The God Abandons Antony by Constantinos P. Cavafy
08/16/2024
Ch – Ch – Ch –Changes
08/15/2024
Cultural Activities Team offers an ‘embarrassment of riches’
08/15/2024
Engaging in Pasadena Village
08/15/2024
Future Housing Options
08/15/2024
Message from the President
08/15/2024
There Are Authors Among Us
08/15/2024
Villagers Welcome New Members at the Tournament Park Picnic
08/15/2024
Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night by Dylan Thomas
08/14/2024
A narrow Fellow in the Grass by Emily Dickinson
08/13/2024
Haikus
08/13/2024
One Art by Elizabeth Bishop
08/13/2024
Poem 20 by Pablo Neruda
08/13/2024
Still I Rise by Maya Angelou
08/13/2024
Trees by Joyce Kilmer
08/13/2024
July 2024
Alma Stokes, The Struggle in Pasadena
07/25/2024
A Poetry Gathering: Liberating Experiences Available
07/19/2024
Civil Rights Movement Series
07/19/2024
Happy Hours in Pasadena: A Villager’s Perspective
07/19/2024
Pasadena Village and the National Dialogue on Villages and Healthy Aging Research
07/19/2024
President's Message
07/19/2024
The Kern River Rafting Caper
07/19/2024
The Village Artists Group creates creative camaraderie
07/19/2024
An Example of Inherent Racism
07/14/2024
Current, Upcoming Events
07/04/2024
June 2024
No Real Recourse For Discrimination
06/30/2024
A Personal Statement of Strength and Well-Being
06/25/2024
Juneteenth Reflections
06/24/2024
Reflections on 2023-2025
06/21/2024
Reactions and Reflections Re: Juneteenth
06/19/2024
As Our Organization Grows, Villagers Recall Personal Highlights
06/17/2024
From the Outgoing President
06/17/2024
Letter from the Incoming President: Beginning Our ‘Lagniappe’ Year
06/17/2024
The Editorial Team Looks Back: Creating the Voice of the Village
06/17/2024
This Year's Resource Fair was the Most Successful Ever
06/17/2024
Telling the Whole Story
06/12/2024
Nashville
06/10/2024
May 2024
Emergency Preparedness: Are You Ready?
05/28/2024
Farewell from the 2023/24 Social Work Interns
05/28/2024
Gina on the Horizon
05/28/2024
Mark Your Calendars for the Healthy Aging Research California Virtual Summit
05/28/2024
Meet Our New Development Associate
05/28/2024
Putting the Strategic Plan into Practice
05/28/2024
Washington Park: Pasadena’s Rediscovered Gem
05/28/2024
Introducing Civil Rights Discussions
05/22/2024
Rumor of Humor #2416
05/14/2024
Rumor of Humor #2417
05/14/2024
Rumor of Humor #2417
05/14/2024
Rumor of Humor #2418
05/14/2024
Springtime Visitors
05/07/2024
Freezing for a Good Cause – Credit, That Is
05/02/2024
No Discussion Meeting on May 3rd
05/02/2024
An Apparently Normal Person Author Presentation and Book-signing
05/01/2024
Flintridge Center: Pasadena Village’s Neighbor That Changes Lives
05/01/2024
Pasadena Celebrates Older Americans Month 2024
05/01/2024
The 2024 Pasadena Village Volunteer Appreciation Lunch
05/01/2024
Woman of the Year: Katy Townsend
05/01/2024
April 2024
Rumor of Humor #2410
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2411
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2412
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2413
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2414
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2415
04/28/2024
Rumor of Humor #2416
04/28/2024
Stimulated by "Caste"
04/22/2024
Tulsa reparations, Religion and Politics
04/09/2024
March 2024
Trumps War with Black Women
03/31/2024
Addressing The Needs of Older Adults Through Pasadena Village
03/25/2024
Coming Soon: More Resources for Older Americans, Online and in Person
03/25/2024
Community Building Locally and Nationally
03/25/2024
Preparing for the Future with Ready or Not
03/25/2024
Volunteering is at The Heart of the Village
03/25/2024
Women's Liberation: Then and Now
03/25/2024
Writing Memoirs Together
03/25/2024
Current Views on Current Events
03/20/2024
Unchained
03/18/2024
Rumr of Humor issue # 2409
03/10/2024
Blacks Portrayed by European Artists
03/03/2024
Rumor of Humor #2408
03/03/2024
February 2024
Caring for Ourselves and Each Other
02/27/2024
Doug Colliflower Honored
02/27/2024
Great Decisions Connects Us to the Worldwide Community
02/27/2024
Letter from the President
02/27/2024
Pasadena Village's Impact
02/27/2024
The Power of Touch
02/27/2024
Villages as a New Approach to Aging
02/27/2024
Addressing Gang Violence in Pasadena-Altadena
02/21/2024
Rumor of Humor Issue 2407
02/19/2024
Thank You For Caring.
02/12/2024
Rumor of Humor 2405
02/11/2024
Curve Balls
02/10/2024
Sylvan Lane
02/10/2024
Rumor of Humor 2404
02/09/2024
Larry Duplechan, Blacks in Film
02/03/2024
January 2024
Pasadena Village Joins Community Partners in Vaccination Campaign
01/29/2024
Rumor of Humor #2403
01/28/2024
Pasadena Village Joins Two Healthy Aging Resource Projects
01/25/2024
Decluttering: Do It Now
01/24/2024
Village Volunteers Contribute to the Huntington Magic
01/24/2024
Villagers Creating Community
01/24/2024
Villagers Reflect on Black History Month
01/24/2024
Walk With Ease, 2024
01/24/2024
Wide Ranging Discussion on Current Issues
01/22/2024
Wide Ranging Discussion on Current Issues
01/22/2024
Rumor of Humor # 2402
01/21/2024
Rumor of Humor # 2401
01/15/2024
Re- Entry Programs, a Personal Experience
01/08/2024
DEAR DIARY…….
By Sally CurriePosted: 07/26/2020
We are currently facing a world pandemic of epic proportions. Our lives have been upended into a new normal with kids staying at home and parents having lost their jobs or trying to work from home. Many are grieving for lost family members and friends. And, sadly, it is becoming obvious that our old ways are pretty much gone for good.
During these stressful times of adjustment to a future for which none of us was prepared, a personal journal can be of great help. I began keeping a daily log when I first started staying in and have found it enormously helpful in getting perspective and maintaining my sense of self.
It is not necessary to be grammatical or to write every day. What is important is to get your feelings down on paper while they are still strong and, if they are negative, before they have been thoughtlessly or hurtfully expressed.
Clarification results when you see your thoughts on paper. Feelings released into a diary can free energy into creative avenues of communication and ways of solving problems. If you are living with your family, a journal can be used to record your expectations of family members in the “new normal.” With increased perspective, you can separate what is from what you would like it to be. And to identify the few factors that, perhaps, cannot be changed.
Your journal can help you to set goals and establish priorities. It can identify “trigger” situations where a particular word or event sets off a predictable explosion so these situations can be avoided to encourage honest communication that can create a trusting bond between family members. If you sense that a family member is overly sensitive or stressed at a particular time, store your feelings on paper until a more appropriate time for expression. The process will give you a more objective view, a better perspective on how to express yourself effectively when the appropriate time comes. You may even decide that the issue really wasn’t important enough to warrant a confrontation.
An honest journal can lead to accepting responsibility for your feelings and saying, “I feel…” rather than “You make me feel…” The increased ability to express feelings accurately without blaming will lead to more open and assertive expression in the interplay of daily living within your family and beyond. Children can benefit from journaling as well.
The concentration required to express feelings on paper causes you to focus on a person or situation in a more complete way than is possible in the context of a busy household. An entry may begin with a description of the shortcomings of a friend or family member and, once the anger is spent, turn to expressions of appreciation for what they bring to your life.
So far, I have been focusing on family adjustment to our unprecedented situation, but for the multitude of people of all ages who live alone as I do, journaling can be a lifesaver. It is “someone to talk to” in our isolation. I like to express my feelings about what I hear in the news, what I am reading, phone conversations and emails. I even write about creative foods I have prepared. And then there are the wonderful memories of a long lifetime. I enjoy writing “memorable minis,” little stories from my life that my heirs may treasure later on. I also like to include dreams because, over time, patterns tend to emerge which help to show me what course I should follow. I also tap into the appreciation of myself that kept me going as little girl who had no playmates and realized that being alone was mostly okay.
If I have trouble sleeping, I get up and start writing. As I write, I feel as if I have “uncorked” my brain. The whirling thoughts flow onto the page through my pen and I keep writing until I feel emptied out. My muscles relax and I fall into peaceful, restorative sleep.
The entries are there, if I wish to refer to them, but I find that the very act of writing them down often brings resolution, a sense of perspective and a bolstered ability to deal with the uncertainty which is now part of our daily lives.
In kindness to yourself, write a diary!
Sally Currie, MS is a retired counselor, group leader and administrator. She is a graduate of Mount Holyoke College and did her graduate work at the University of Bridgeport and the Raxlin Institute for Family Studies. She is also a published poet and originated and hosted a TV talk show for seniors in Durango, CO. She has lived in eight states, moved 42 times and calls Pasadena her forever home. Her mother survived the flu in 1918 and died in her 101st year.