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December 2024

November 2024

Event of Remembrance
11/22/2024

Phishing Scams: What You Need to Know
11/22/2024

Pupusas Family Style: Another Adventurous Dining Winner
11/22/2024

Celebrating the Holidays
11/21/2024

Genealogy Group: Discovering Our Pasts
11/21/2024

Nathan Wolford – From Tragedy to Ministry
11/21/2024

Pasadena Village Board of Directors: A Brief Overview
11/21/2024

President's Message
11/21/2024

The Day of the Dead (Dia de muertos)/ Mexican Culture/Community
11/21/2024

Vintage Celebration: Aging Like a Fine Wine
11/21/2024

Review of Racism in Our Local Past
11/20/2024

Creative Juices Flow in The Village
11/19/2024

Checking In by Ed Rinderle
11/15/2024

Eagle Poem by Joy Harjo
11/15/2024

I Shall Forget You Presently, My Dear (Sonnet IV) by Edna St. Vincent Millay
11/15/2024

Pictures From Brueghel by William Carlos Williams
11/15/2024

October 2024

ARBORIST WALK: NOT FOR TREE HUGGERS ONLY!
10/29/2024

Bill Wishner: Visual Hunter
10/29/2024

Can a Village Group Fix Our Healthcare System?
10/29/2024

Community Board Directors Strengthen Village Board
10/29/2024

Connecting with Village Connections: The A, B, C, & D’s of Medicare @ 65+
10/29/2024

Grief is a Journey: Two Paths Taken
10/29/2024

Message from the President
10/29/2024

Promoting Informed & Involved Voters
10/29/2024

What Will Be Your Legacy?
10/29/2024

1619, Approaching the Election...
10/27/2024

Beyond and Within the Village - A Star is Born
10/17/2024

Happiness by Priscilla Leonard
10/11/2024

Those Winter Sundays by Robert Hayden
10/11/2024

Unpainted Door by Louise Gluck
10/11/2024

In the Evening by Billy Collins
10/10/2024

Wild Geese by Mary Oliver
10/10/2024

Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024

Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024

Betty Kilby, A Family History
10/01/2024

September 2024

August 2024

1619 Wide Ranging Interests
08/19/2024

1619 Wide Ranging Interests
08/19/2024

First Anniversary
08/19/2024

Alexandra Leaving by Leonard Cohen
08/16/2024

Muse des Beaux Arts by W. H. Auden
08/16/2024

The God Abandons Antony by Constantinos P. Cavafy
08/16/2024

Ch – Ch – Ch –Changes
08/15/2024

Cultural Activities Team offers an ‘embarrassment of riches’
08/15/2024

Engaging in Pasadena Village
08/15/2024

Future Housing Options
08/15/2024

Message from the President
08/15/2024

There Are Authors Among Us
08/15/2024

Villagers Welcome New Members at the Tournament Park Picnic
08/15/2024

Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night by Dylan Thomas
08/14/2024

A narrow Fellow in the Grass by Emily Dickinson
08/13/2024

Haikus
08/13/2024

One Art by Elizabeth Bishop
08/13/2024

Poem 20 by Pablo Neruda
08/13/2024

Still I Rise by Maya Angelou
08/13/2024

Trees by Joyce Kilmer
08/13/2024

July 2024

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May 2024

Emergency Preparedness: Are You Ready?
05/28/2024

Farewell from the 2023/24 Social Work Interns
05/28/2024

Gina on the Horizon
05/28/2024

Mark Your Calendars for the Healthy Aging Research California Virtual Summit
05/28/2024

Meet Our New Development Associate
05/28/2024

Putting the Strategic Plan into Practice
05/28/2024

Washington Park: Pasadena’s Rediscovered Gem
05/28/2024

Introducing Civil Rights Discussions
05/22/2024

Rumor of Humor #2416
05/14/2024

Rumor of Humor #2417
05/14/2024

Rumor of Humor #2417
05/14/2024

Rumor of Humor #2418
05/14/2024

Springtime Visitors
05/07/2024

Freezing for a Good Cause – Credit, That Is
05/02/2024

No Discussion Meeting on May 3rd
05/02/2024

An Apparently Normal Person Author Presentation and Book-signing
05/01/2024

Flintridge Center: Pasadena Village’s Neighbor That Changes Lives
05/01/2024

Pasadena Celebrates Older Americans Month 2024
05/01/2024

The 2024 Pasadena Village Volunteer Appreciation Lunch
05/01/2024

Woman of the Year: Katy Townsend
05/01/2024

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January 2024

FINDING PEACE OF MIND THROUGH FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION

By Edward A. Rinderle
Posted: 12/19/2024
Tags: ed rinderle, newsletter january 2025

Pasadena Village Education Team hosted a presentation on forgiveness at Connect 2 Rise in Pasadena.  Dr. Richard Lyon was invited to speak on this topic based upon his first presentation to the Village a few years ago.   

Dr. Lyon has a Master of Divinity Degree from Fuller Seminary and a PhD in Human Development from Claremont Graduate University. He has been in private practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist since 1991.  

In his description of his lecture, Dr. Lyon said “Learning to forgive is more than a moral mandate. Forgiveness can liberate us from the tyranny of false hopes and corrosive resentments, and thereby improve our emotional, physical, and relational well-being.” He went on to say, “The concept of forgiveness can be easy to understand but difficult to implement.”

Dr. Lyon gave his presentation using a series of ideas loaded with information. Among the topics he covered are:

- Achieving balance between integrity (satisfaction) and despair (regret). That balance is the fruit of forgiveness.

- Forgiving ourselves as well as others. Forgiving ourselves leads to wisdom.

- Addressing the misunderstanding and misuse of the concept of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not “excusing.” Nor is it “forgetting” or “reconciling.”          

- Recognizing that forgiveness begins with a loss and a and feeling that the forgiven owes us some debt. Forgiveness involves canceling that debt.       

- Heeding the process of forgiveness. Forgiveness involves remembering, grieving, and rethinking.  Rethinking can lead to finding empathy for one's self. Dr. Lyon says “Forgiveness is usually more therapeutic for the forgiver than for the forgiven.”  

- Understanding that forgiveness requires compassion, courage, and wisdom. Forgiveness also generates these same traits.  

- Understanding that forgiveness is difficult.

- Realizing that not forgiving comes with a cost.    

Finally, Dr. Lyon emphasized that we may or may not find reconciliation in our forgiving. But we know the process is complete when we can wish the forgiven well.

Among the Villagers present, several shared their reactions to the presentation. Wayne April said, “I found the Forgiveness presentation very interesting, although I felt I should be taking notes for the test. Very meaty. The question-and-answer period was engaging.” Jim Hendrick concluded, “I learned that true forgiveness requires more than an apology.”

If you missed the presentation, you might like to watch the recording of Dr. Lyon's 2022 presentation on Pasadena Village's YouTube Channel. 

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